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The Best Advice I Ever Received


Just like quotes, I rarely (almost never) abide to people’s advices. It’s not that I’m selfish or what but I take them as a mere suggestions, which means in the end things will always depend on myself, and luck, and even God’s intervention (if you atheist people out there are laughing at me because I believe in God, then you are wrong). And more often than enough, people thought they’re giving advice to me although they were just shoving their ideals upon me.

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Anyways, this is one of the best advices I ever received, “A good relationship must based on mutual give and take”. This advice can be viewed from both positive and negative side. For example, we may think a relationship like that is insincere or hypocritical because a payback is expected, but on a positive note, a payback is always necessary in order to make the relationship healthy a.k.a. symbiotic instead of parasitic. Isn’t it better if both parties win, right?

Like I said earlier, advice is more of a suggestion, because it’s always based on one’s past experiences. However one thing people should note is, if it works on you it doesn’t mean it will work on others too. Also if you think you might have better solution to certain problems than other people, think again. I’m not against giving advice but before doing so, we should do enough assessment about it and not ending up forcing others to follow our ways.

Now what if I put a little twist to the ‘advice’ I received above? “Give and take advice to and from each other”. That would be better because advice won’t work if it only goes one way. And even if we think we really need to give advice, please remember this; try to do so in good intention for the sake of everybody, also do it with patience because it’s normal if people don’t listen to you on the first time. And here comes another good advice, “Never give up”.

(12/53 people gave up giving me advice after infinite try)

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My Prophetic Dream


Prophetic dream may sound stupid because, who in the right mind would believe in their dream? Actually dream is there to make our sleep more 'enjoyable', interesting and not just boring. And dream is always based on our deep unconscious desire. Believe it or not sleepwalking may be caused by one's deepest desire to do things that can't be done while awake. The truth is, just because we had one or two prophetic dreams doesn't mean it is reliable to predict the future.

Dreaming

I'm saying that but it doesn't mean it never happened to me before. It did happen, many times. In my experience, usually prophetic dream shares similar characteristics. They feel/seem so real, and more often than enough, they are extremely unusual or rare. For example, I don't buy lottery tickets but there are a few times I dreamed about buying one and win the first prize. The next day I told my lottery-addict friends about it, then they went buying the exact number right away and announced as the winners the next day. Quite freaking and creepy, ain't it?

And there are not just good prophecies, there are also about the bad ones as well. For example, I dreamed about the fall of the US as the world super power in year 2XXX. The dream made me feel uneasy, not because I like America but because I'm more interested to know how the world would be without the US. So I can't wait and I switched on my time machine, went forward into time several centuries and I stopped at year 2XXX. Indeed my dream was true! Not only America is no longer a world superpower on that time, the role is then hold by a most unlikely small nation,… let just say the nation's name is 'N' because I don't want to give any more spoilers on what will happen in the future.

Prophetic dream may be stupid but it's not all that bad. In fact there are times too I have to rely on dreams. I don't believe in dreams but I believe that in order for us to solve problems that can't be solved while we're awake, going to sleep and dreaming might be the best solution for it. The dream is not really the problem solver but we might find clues to the solution we're trying to find. Who knows there might be the moments of "why didn't I think of that?" in our dreams? It's not really about predicting the future here but one thing clear is, our dreams may be the key to solve our future problems. So dreaming is not really worthless as it seems.

(17/21 people dreamed about Hitler comes back to life and believe it will happen someday)

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My Question In Need of an Honest Answer


To expect honest answer, or should I say the will to know the truth is hardwired inside humanity, more less like “human instinct” (if you could call that ‘instinct’ on human being though). It’s the same will also that drive us to lie about the truth and being hypocrite. We expect honest answer from other people but we’d be reluctant to answer honestly. What is it if not hypocrisy, right?

Tree of Truth

Certainly it depends on whom I can ask the question. Normally I’d like to ask everybody but there is one question I’ve been longing to ask all people that I know. The question is either “What lies did you tell?” or “What are your secrets that you have yet to tell me?”. Some killer question isn’t it? Yeah I’d like to ask that because I know everybody lies (me is no exception either because I am no saint). Now read on.

Why would I ask that kind of killer question? It’s because that’s what all human are doing; seeking the truth. We always interested to know everything, and I don’t need to be particular or being specific here since it’s really self-explanatory. Besides don’t you think it would be cool if you know could know everything and being able to answer what people might ask you about some other people? At least I do.

Another reason why I’d like to ask that question is because it’s one of the questions I’m fear of. Yeah, to be honest I’m afraid if people going to expect honest answer from me should anybody ask me the same question. You may call me hypocrite for being like that but like I said, everybody lies, and everybody are hypocrites. Admit it because there is no use for you to be in denial. That’s what people do.

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